4 Steps to Improvement Relationships

It's about relationships ! proclaimed my father during our recent holiday visit with my parents. Santa Claus coffee cup in one hand and a wagging finger toward my wife , Elizabeth , with the other . When you retire , that is what you realize is most important in life (well, if it is not him in the photo ) .

Dad recently retired from 30 years as an orthopedic surgeon and the general change in lifestyle seems to have led to a significant change in his outlook on life . To me, your statement about the relationship became much broader and deeper than I thought, a simple and reasonable presentation could never be .


At first glance , it makes sense that relationship are vital to our lives. If it comes to friendship, dating, marriage, family or community , relationships with others are a part of our daily life. They give us belonging , meaning, companionship, intimacy and love . But to return to this view , a broad look at the topic, I realized that relationship are more significant interactions with people. When we interact or relate to something that we are , in fact, in this regard. For example, our relationship with work, our relationship with ourselves , our relationship to our health and our relationship with our spirituality. Defining the relationship of this broader perspective, our relation list is almost endless.

You see, when we look at our relationships, we look at our interaction with every part of our life, people , places , things and events. So what is our relationship with our work, ourselves, our environment, our health, our spirituality? How we deal with these things? Or better yet, if it has to do with how relationships are our most important relationships ?

From the world of psychotherapy, often helped couples , families and individuals to improve personnel relationships, work through a series of four questions. Once I expanded my definition of relations, I found that these issues are applicable to all types of relationships. The questions go something like this:

A . What are the relationships that you enjoy the most?

Be clear about what you enjoy and that you are truly priorities relationship with you.

Two . Why do you enjoy ?

Understand the value of these relationships have you stressed the importance of the relationship and why a relationship feels important.

Three . How do you feed each relationship?

Now that you have identified how and why a relationship is important , you must define what you do to keep the relationship alive and growing .

April. How do you keep your commitment through difficult times ?

These are the statistics on divorce very different with the many other relationships that end in our own lives ( i.e., , the fall of the regime , forget the year, leaving a job to another , set goals personnel and dreams waiting, go to the / spiritual God when you have more time , etc)? These relationships are not necessarily a wedding, but a wedding these relationships have their difficult moments. As in a marriage relationship , we must work through difficult times in our relationships rather than put aside until a better time or the struggles that await plain go. This is usually the point where my clients ask me for help .

You will inevitably find maintain these relationships are often like a juggling act . Although , once you identify key relationships in our lives and begin relationships with them rather than leave them on our list of things to do as soon as we find balance in life is achievable and in fact, the life of truth has to do with relationships.