Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Essentials Ways On How To Deal With Bullying

By Nelda Powers


Bullying is a problem that most of us have had to deal with in one part of our lives or the other. For a good number of people, it is a constant problem that they have to face every day. Bullying can be defined as the repeated act of aggressive behaviour to dominate others. It can be in form of mockery, threats, abuse and coercion towards particular targets. It has been linked to variation in gender, physique, class, religion; race, just to name a few. Bullying is one of the factors contributing to increased suicide cases especially among teens. As a result, various movements and laws have been created on how to deal with bullying.


This undesirable behavior can be in divided into 3 forms; emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of insults and intimidation while physical abuse is hands on. The pattern of abuse is almost similar in both females and males when both victim and perpetrator are adults who would rather have it the verbal and emotional way. This is because physical violence tends to paint a bad image in public and perpetrators would rather avoid it. Physical abuse may also be avoided when the target appears stronger than the perpetrator. However, in majority of cases, females are usually non physical.

This act can also be categorised into direct and indirect. The direct form involves using force as in shoving, pushing, biting, kicking, pulling and so forth. The indirect type which is also known as social aggression entails trying to isolate the victim. This is made possible through spreading negative publicity concerning the target.

So what do bullies stand to gain by hurting other people? That is the big question. The common denominator in a majority of the bullies is the low self-esteem among them. By acting aggressively towards other people, they conceal their weaknesses; it makes them feel better about themselves. The other reason for this aggression is jealousy. Some perpetrators simply are not happy about the success of their victim.

Some bullies may be obsessed with tormenting others because they suffer from psychiatric conditions. Bullies are usually characterised by high a temper and feeling too good about themselves outwardly though this may not be the case in reality. In addition, bullies report poor performance academically

Victims usually end up feeling depressed, lonely and unwanted. There self esteem is greatly lowered and gradually lose interest in life. In the long run, it can lead to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Victims accumulate bitterness and hatred that may in future may present violently. The good side of bullying can be where victims are able to stand up for themselves and gain the respect of the people around.

Parents, teachers and guardians are encouraged to attend anti bullying training programs to be help children cope. Schools can also come up with policies and peer counseling sessions. The state can actively participate by instituting laws against such behaviour.

Victims can deal with bullying but taking the challenge heads on. They need to face their opponent with confidence and a positive attitude. This way, they end up gaining respect and admiration of not only the bullies but also the immediate onlookers.




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