Your desire to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or wife is very normal. The loss of someone that you care about in your life can be devastating. If your ex was a part of your life every day then you might be feeling a little lost and lonely. The rejection from the breakup has taken a toll on your ego, your self-esteem and your confidence. While you search for a solution and wait for your ex to come back, it is important that you remain cool and calm. When it comes to your relationship, your attitude has everything to do with your success.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
First, the attitude that you need to adopt when it comes to your girlfriend or wife or any woman, for that matter, is one of indifference. In short, you need to be willing to walk away both figuratively and literally when she begins to treat you poorly. If she yells at you, has an attitude with you or if she acts disrespectful towards you in any way, you need to be willing to walk away. This attitude will permeate your soul and be evident to your ex in your body language as well as your actions.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
If you have been upset since your breakup there might be a chance that your ex has seen you cry. She might know that you're depressed about the breakup. In the future, you're not going to let your ex know anything about your life other than the fact that you are happy, loving life and ready to move on without her, if necessary. Without a word, you are rebuilding your life. You are happy and you have things that you want to do with your life as well as the strength to achieve these goals. Instead of holding onto that depressed personality and being sad about your breakup, you are happy with life and you're living life to the best of your ability.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
First, the attitude that you need to adopt when it comes to your girlfriend or wife or any woman, for that matter, is one of indifference. In short, you need to be willing to walk away both figuratively and literally when she begins to treat you poorly. If she yells at you, has an attitude with you or if she acts disrespectful towards you in any way, you need to be willing to walk away. This attitude will permeate your soul and be evident to your ex in your body language as well as your actions.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
If you have been upset since your breakup there might be a chance that your ex has seen you cry. She might know that you're depressed about the breakup. In the future, you're not going to let your ex know anything about your life other than the fact that you are happy, loving life and ready to move on without her, if necessary. Without a word, you are rebuilding your life. You are happy and you have things that you want to do with your life as well as the strength to achieve these goals. Instead of holding onto that depressed personality and being sad about your breakup, you are happy with life and you're living life to the best of your ability.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
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