Friday, February 28, 2014

How To Handle An Abusive Relationship

By Norbert Higensen


You may know someone in an abusive relationship or you may be in one yourself. Many times these relationships are with those who have become very close to you in some way or another. When you find yourself in a relationship that is abusive or when you find someone else that needs help, here are some tips to keep them safe.


If you can, imagine for a moment a human life without a single relationship. This is difficult and maybe even impossible, because from birth, each human being is presented with relationships, and throughout life, these relationships are able to grow as more relationships are built and individuals become part of communities.

Most of us experience lives full of mostly good and fulfilling relationships that improve our lives and make us more able to face the difficulties that come our way. However, there are some who end up in relationships that are unhealthy, and even unsafe.

Have a plan

You need to have a plan. If you know that it is when that person is drunk that they are at their most abusive state, then make sure you aren't around when that person comes home from the bar or pub. Another thing to do, is have some money just for security purposes. It is important to stash some money where no one can find it but you. Along with the money, you should have the phone number of the nearest battered women and children's shelter.

With your plan, somewhere down the line, you need to call the police. Having them involved will give you the most amount of support. They will protect you from him if he tries to stalk you, which many abusive partners do.

Have confidence

This can often cause difficulties emotionally, physically, and even legally for the victim, but these difficulties will be worth the relief that separation can bring. It is also extremely important that these individuals receive the help and support they need during these difficult times, both from friends and family members, along with professional support from a counselor and legal support from a lawyer, and if necessary, the police.

In an abusive marriage, these difficulties can be even greater, so in these situations, it is important to find a qualified divorce lawyer, or wherever you may be. And if there are children involved, it is even more important to find a custody attorney as well.

When you finally make the decision you will be glad you did. It is a surprisingly free and empowering world for those who leave such relationships. Make sure that you are ready for what comes with all of your relationships.




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