Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Do You Need Relationship Help In Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Very few marriages are perfect, in fact, at one time or another, most marriages require some sort of relationship help. A marriage without a good relationship has little hope of lasting a lifetime. Should it last, the partners aren't usually happy or content and that is when trouble starts.


A marriage and a relationship are two very different things. In a marriage, you've formed a bond with another person that is before God, law and man. You are united until death or divorce do you part.

A relationship is meaningful feelings formed following the marriage. They continue to deepen and grow for as long as a marriage is maintained. Actually the relationship should start well in advance of the wedding vows.

Sadly, others may notice that your relationship and marriage are crumbling well before you notice it. They'll see you going to functions without your other half and giving an excuse for their absence.

When you are spending time together, you constantly complain about different petty annoyances and are always criticizing each other. Or sometimes it goes to the other extreme. You may be in the same room but never speak to one another. It doesn't matter what the other is talking about or does, it is uninteresting and boring.

If your relationship needs help, you'll also have a serious lack of interest in intimacy. The spark has gone out and you simply can't rekindle it.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

If carried to the extremes, your partner can really be turned off by jealousy. The jealous person might withdraw from intimacy because they think their partner has been unfaithful. The accused person might also hold back on their feelings because they are tired of all the jealous questions and constant badgering.

Make sure to not exaggerate the situation and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is a problem, you'll need to seek help. If intimacy is to be a part of the relationship, then jealousy must go.

Debt is another culprit that is responsible for relationship issues. Not having money can be serious. If one partner overspends constantly, it can cause a huge rift in the relationship.

When one partner spends more than the other partner the marriage is drowning in bills. The relationship then begins to sink and debt drains the life blood from the relationship.

All marriages run into problems at some time or another. Disagreements and conflicts are going to occur. They are to be expected. However, from time to time, just make sure you take a look at your relationship to make sure you and your spouse are happy with where you are. If any adjustments need to be made, just make them and keep moving forward.




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