Wednesday, May 21, 2014

3 Sure Signs That Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

By Beth E Peterson


The doubt and frustration after a breakup can be maddening. Wondering if you still have a chance of getting back together with your ex can be confusing. Often what your ex says and what they do seem to be in opposition. They might tell you one thing yet you have this nagging feeling that they are still in love with you. You feel that there is still hope. You want to get back together but every attempt to reunite is met with opposition.


Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.

If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.

You might be tempted to give your friends or family members the third degree when you hear that your ex contacted them. Resist this urge and instead remain cool and calm. Keep your private emotions and thoughts to yourself. It might be tempting to drop a few hints to your mutual friends that you miss your ex or that you are hoping to get back together. This will only make things uncomfortable for your friends and family. Make your ex contact you directly if they want to know what is going on in your life. Leave your friends and family out of your private matters until the day comes when you let them know that you're back together with your ex.

Next, has your ex tried contacting you directly to ask you a mundane question or to set up a meeting so they can return your belongings? If your ex misses you and still has feelings for you, they might reach out to you directly to hear your voice and satisfy that urge to connect with you. As much as you miss your ex and the daily contact that you once had, your ex is still a human being and taking something as important as an intimate relationship away will cause them to feel some loss. This is perfectly natural.

Try to resist the urge to talk about the breakup or anything having to do with getting back together. You can be glad to hear their voice or happy to receive their message but keep you wits about you. Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself concerning getting back together. If you feel that you aren't ready to see your ex at the moment, find an excuse to put off meeting with them or avoid their phone call for the moment. It is crucially important that you exude confidence and happiness at this point in the process of getting back together. Your actions and body language will speak volumes so resist the temptation and don't speak about getting back together until they voice their desire.

The next place that you are probably looking for clues that will tell you what your ex feels for you is social networking websites. There's a good chance that both of you are looking at each others profiles and spying on each other. This might not be the best idea but it happens. If you notice that your ex is posting a lot of photos that show how happy they are or status messages about what they're doing then you can be sure that these messages are for you. Does it look like your ex is trying just a little bit too hard to convince the world that they're happy? If so then there's a good chance that they're missing you a lot.

Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.

If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.




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