Friday, May 9, 2014

Perusing Through The Divorce Diaries

By Tracie Knight


Divorce has become very common in the current society; as a result many families are left in mayhem. Different people have chosen different methods of trying to heal the painful wound of crashing matrimony. Below is a list of some of the ways we perused in the divorce diaries.

A light at the end of the tunnel. A light of hope shines as a New Year approaches. As I am already nearing there, I am dead sure that hope is just nearby in front. It may take a shorter while or to an extent of years but I am sure as I have been through this before.


Written wall.This is how my marriage ended. It started with continuous complaints that I never understood what the reason was for them. A bang followed next. It is now clear that back then I was blinded to recognize the writings that were clearly written on the wall.

You will never amount to anything you worthless piece of crap. These were my ex word as our marriage was still unraveling. I would like to thank him officially for those hurtful, heart piercing words for little did he know that he adding favor onto me. Through his own words he was encouraging me to climb the ladder and be something great without him of course. It now turns out that it was all I was waiting for.

Commercializing divorce. An ending marriage is never prepared by the society. Just as weddings, by now you should have thought that someone somewhere should have come with a way of turning an ending marriage into a machine for profit making. It is very sensible considering that half of the first marriages and almost three quarter of subsequent marriages end up in a divorce. It is so common that a slight nerve firm could come in and convert divorce into a gold mine.

Strangers are equal to cheap help. Those people who never knew me as I was in turmoil of my ending marriage would often ask me questions like, how were you able to do it? How were you able to get over it? Those who already knew me often do not ask since they already know as I had already told them. Then I answer these new questions which are also now common to me, I talk about it, again I talk about it, again and again. The more I keep talking over and over, I find out that am letting it out from the heart. A regular tete-a-tete, sharing with whomever at whenever for sure works.

Do not share with kids despite being single. Realizing when not to say a thing is something I have realized since I turned into a single mom. Though managing household is one of the various things associated with a dying marriage it should not be an irritation and instead you should work hard on them. The job is meant to be mine and I am never to be ever complaining around my babies as to why I am working all the errands alone.

Things I am grateful - at list. In my journey to serenity, I have discovered that obtaining your sense of gladness is way important. Always counting what I have been blessed with and seeing the glass half full rather than half empty is the path am leading.

It is conclusive advising that one should join others in sharing their divorce experience as one will be able to come up with various ways upon which he or she can use as stepping stones from the emotional pain of heartbreak.




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