For Better Relationships

The quality of each service depends on how emotional needs are met . That said , most people would be hard to say what these needs are , regardless of whether you or someone else - a friend, spouse, child, grandchild , employer or employee .

This may seem a daunting task to find what they are , but guess what ! Other emotional needs " are the same as their base. Is there a simple way to think and respond to the emotional needs of others?

The answer turns out to be positive because these needs are the same as everyone grew up in childhood. Instead exceed when we arrived at adulthood , they become the basis of emotional life in adulthood . Here is a brief summary of the essential Six :

1 ) . Every relationship is based on the connection through the recognition of the other person with their own needs, desires and feelings. In a healthy relationship , successful connections are the basic feelings such as anger , fear , sadness , joy, etc. are shared and accepted. In short, emotional healthy relationships " based on " stable operations where the feelings and needs of each party are based are confirmed.

2 ) . Everyone needs to keep this "base" while recognizing that a greater proportion beyond the world exists . With this " base of operations " intact provides the security needed to explore the world - find out what's there. If the base is threatened , the choice is either to leave the base and cut the connection, or maintain the connection and give up the discovery of what exists . Healthy relationships allow the continuation of this " base " stable operations , while partners to explore in a way that adds to their mutual security.

3 ) . Union is great, but over time the need for independence emerges . People need to create , establish and maintain healthy boundaries with others. They need to establish " this is mine and what is yours ", and " so far and no further. " Healthy relationships have limits that allow each person to be themselves, respecting the separation of the other person.

4 ) . It would be great if others would be what we need or want to be, but it's just not how healthy relationships work. Each person must discover who they are - love , dislikes , talents, abilities, inclinations and interests. Healthy relationships maintain the connection and mutual support , while allowing each party to develop its own identity.

5 ) . While healthy relationships often share the same or similar values ​​, it is rare that each party in a relationship has the same values ​​as the others. Relations introverted extrovert witnesses , with children and parents, between man and woman, parent who stays at home with working parents . Different values ​​and priorities are inevitable. Difficult to manage ultimatums (my way or the highway !) Relations. Health allows different values ​​between the parties negotiated in common.

6 ) . If either party in a relationship has reached adulthood, then each formed all parts of themselves to form a complete personality. Be related to another does not mean being the other person . This does not mean that one of the parts absorbs the other . Healthy relationships allow and even celebrate each other as a whole person .

The bottom line is this: the quality of all relationships of all kinds depends on how these needs are met.