Saturday, April 12, 2014

Heeding The Signs That You Might Have A Bad Marriage

By Herbert Zabala


When you're in a bad marriage, it can be as painful as getting a root canal or open heart surgery. Marriages that are good are difficult enough already to cultivate because all married couples go through good days and bad days, ups and downs in their lives together.


There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.

It goes without saying that a lot of married couples will try to work through the tough times for a number of reasons. However, some people who are involved in a marriage that is simply not good for them will often have a hard time even realizing it.

They go through life having a false assumption of what a happy family should look like. Then, when they get into a shaky marriage, they just go with it and live with it.

Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.

Some of the signs that you could be involved in a bad marriage could include everything from no intimacy or affection to little or no communication between partners. In more severe cases, you will often see a relationship where there is a lot of verbal and even physical abuse.

People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.

The unfortunate news is that only about one percent of married couples actually seek counseling. Maybe you know what the problem is but you fear admitting it. A counselor can help you bring out the truth and offer advice that can help.

Keeping a positive attitude is very important, but remember, you can't turn a blind eye to everything that is going wrong with your marriage. Only by addressing your problems can you seek effective solutions.

Research has shown that couples in a bad marriage suffer more from poor health because of the additional stress. That is a danger. There is a higher risk of heart disease, depression, eating disorders and other ailments because they are constantly under stress and in an unhappy state. It can negatively affect a person's immune system and the body's ability to resist illnesses and disease.

Before you do anything else, though, make sure you really want to save your marriage. If you do, there is nothing stopping you other than yourself.




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