Showing posts with label Manipulation in Relationships; Manipulation. Show all posts
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Thursday, January 2, 2014

Manipulation in Relationships

Editing software Photoshop or digital images are used to manipulate the images to a different aspect of the original, or give the image a look that you want. Handling is not different, it is to control a person or situation to get what you want. Why ? Many things can cause this problem.

Do you find yourself doing things you do not really want? When a loved one or to suggest that I do something against their will, how do you feel ?


People use manipulation as a way to control people , events and their own lives. It is a type of self-defense mechanism . Usually these people trying to stuff manipulation had no control , such as young children, often abused or abandoned , etc. or adult who believe that manipulation is a way to get what they want . Using the tip and allows them to feel euphoric.


Checkmate is a position of chess in which the king of a player is threatened with capture and there is no way to counter the threat. Or, simply , the king is attacked directly and can not avoid capture. It is similar to the game of manipulation, creating a situation where the other person is captured and victim.


To manipulate someone is to play with someone's mind . Try to convince the other person that what you offer is the best option for him, but you know it will work in your favor .


For example, when Zora told his mother he would go to her in-laws place a burden on them if she knew what the answer from her parents and she got what she wanted and everything stayed for several days make their parents feel guilty asking you to leave your home.


The manipulator is seen in the center of the universe and other things revolve around him. He is happy with the sense of ownership and possession of all, little empathy for others feels, and does little else unless there is a personal benefit.


The trick is to recognize it and make sure that you are neither a defeat nor be manipulated, as it is a dysfunctional relationship . Here are some ways to tell if someone is trying to manipulate :


1 ) . Tears: When someone welling with tears in his eyes, and not necessarily their real tears .


2 ) . Sanction: Remove love and support.


3 ) . Lie : The manipulators are expert liars. They invent stories that sound logical to make people feel sorry for them so they can get something.


4 ) . Diversion : Manipulator not giving a straight answer to a direct question and direct the conversation to another topic.


5 ) . You buttering Up: To achieve their purposes, manipulators often make you feel good , so I can then ask them to do something they want.


6 ) . Anger : Manipulator uses anger to emotional intensity to get the victim into submission.


7 ) . Guilt Trip: this manipulative behavior seeks to feel guilty.


Identify manipulative behavior , think about what they do and if his words are used to get to do something you really do not want to do. Ask yourself some questions about the effects of their actions.


Once you identify the handler creates a wise option to cut it or ignore it . Stay where you are and do not try to twist and learn to say "no."